Reclaim your voice
You are not alone. And you do not have to face this on your own.
Clare Alden helps individuals and communities recognize harmful intimate relationships, identify the often-hidden dynamics of coercive control, and reclaim personal agency with practical strategies.
Not all harm leaves a mark.
The hurtful, controlling relationship that can be harder recognize.
Coercive control is the steady erosion of a person's confidence, leaving them unsure about their choices, connections, and sense of self. It doesn't always present with physical aggression.
Millions of women live inside a controlling relationship without ever calling it, or understanding it to be, "abuse." They only know that something is wrong. And they know that they are exhausted, isolated, and unsure of their own judgment. Too many suffer in silence.
Clare's work brings this hidden dynamic into the light for the women who suffer, and for the friends, families, communities, and professionals who want to help.
A framework for support
The three S's
Three powerful ideas that can help someone begin to find their voice.
Where would you like to start?
FOR COMMUNITIES
If you lead a community, agency, or organization
Clare speaks to advocates, educators, professionals, and community groups about recognizing coercive control and supporting those experiencing it.
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FOR READERS
Reclaiming Clare
From Controlling "Love" to Courageous Clarity — a true story of one woman's journey out of a controlling relationship, and how telling it set her free.
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01
Safe Space
Mental, emotional, and physical room to think, feel, and breathe.
02
Social Support
Where a controlling relationship seeks to isolate, social connection reminds a person she is seen, heard, believed, and not alone.
03
Self-Care
Permission to listen to yourself, trust your feelings, and do the things that bring you joy and build personal autonomy.
ABOUT CLARE
Educator, author, and community leader
Clare Alden is an advocate, educator, and survivor dedicated to helping women find their voice, preventing violence against women, and supporting those affected by abuse and coercive control. Drawing on lived experience, professional training, and years of advocacy, she helps communities better understand coercive control and how to truly support those experiencing it.
She currently serves on New York State's Violence Against Women Prevention Advisory Council, volunteers with domestic violence programs, and works directly with children and families as a Court Appointed Special Advocate and in community-based human services.
Speaker • Author • Survivor • Advocate
The book
From Controlling "Love" to Courageous Clarity
A true story of one woman's journey out of a controlling relationship and into a life of her own — and of how telling her story became the very thing that set her free.